Spencer Matthews comes from one of the richest and poshest families in Britain but he is adamant that his children will work for their money. The 36 year old dad of three has spent the past five years transforming from a reality TV playboy to a businessman and endurance athlete, and he’s determined that his children will also learn the value of hard work.
“Suffer is too strong a word, but it’s very important that my kids have to challenge themselves and experience things on their own,” says Spencer, who was educated at Eton where fees are currently £63,000 a year. “There’s no point in doing well in life and then giving it all to your kids. It’s doing them a huge disservice.”
Spencer tied the knot with model Vogue Williams, 39, in June 2018 in a lavish wedding at the family’s Glen Affric Estate in Cannich surrounded by close friends and family. They followed this up with a star-studded second ceremony in London that was filmed for E4.
At the time of their first wedding, Vogue was seven months pregnant with their son Theodore, six, who arrived in September 2018. Theodore was followed by Gigi, four, and Otto who turns three in April.
Spencer Matthews is all about encouraging his little ones to push their limits, and it seems his son Theodore is already following in his footsteps. Theodore recently took part in his local Parkrun, a move possibly spurred by Spencer’s own impressive feat of completing 30 marathons in 30 days on sand last summer, reports the Mirror.
Gushing over his son’s achievement, Spencer shared, “Theodore is starting to run now,” adding, “He ran two kilometres the other day with an average pace of 5 minutes 20 seconds per kilometre. I was just so proud of him because the kid got around two laps, and some kids give up after one lap because they’re given that option. And he pushed through it to do two laps. The more comfort you wrap around people in general, the weaker they will become.”
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Even comedian Jimmy Carr, not typically known for profound insights, has influenced Spencer’s approach to parenting. Reflecting on Carr’s thoughts, Spencer said, “Jimmy quite eloquently talks about trust fund kids who are given everything, and he sees them as just being really unfortunate, actually,” agreeing, “And I would completely agree.”
Spencer has raised a whopping £630,000 for charity by running back-to-back marathons in the Jordanian desert, and it’s given him a whole new outlook on life. The former party-loving reality TV star now values hard work and personal growth over his old hedonistic lifestyle.
He’s keen to instil this ethos in his kids too, saying, “It’s important to not always stay comfortable,” and “People feel like comfort is the goal but comfort certainly isn’t the goal. It’s nice to feel comfortable, but the more comfortable you are, the less you’re going to grow, the less you’re going to learn.”
He also shared his thoughts on privilege and work ethic: “If you’re a young man who’s just given everything, or a young woman, who’s just given everything, you may not ever understand the need to work because you have what you think you want, and then, therefore, you won’t ever feel proud of yourself. You won’t ever have a sense of achievement.”
Spencer’s life took a turn for the better over five years ago when he decided to quit the wild parties and focus on his career and familya choice he believes may have saved his life and his marriage. Reflecting on his past, he admits, “I was certainly a danger to myself at one point,” adding, “If I hadn’t changed my relationship with alcohol, the end result could have been pretty troublesome.”
Spencer opened up about how his wife Vogue Williams was the key influence behind his decision to leave behind his party lifestyle. Despite no ultimatums from her, he admitted feeling at risk of losing Vogue.
Spencer says, “Vogue was a massive factor in my wanting to change. I wanted to be better for her, initially. I thought I would lose her. There was never any pressure from her per se, I could just see disappointment in her eyes. I care enormously about my relationship, my love for her. I wanted to make her proud initially so that was a driving factor. She’s an incredible mother and a beautiful wife and I feel very lucky to be married to her.”
Demonstrating his commitment to personal growth and new experiences, Spencer recently challenged himself by spending a day as a delivery driver. The reality star tackled the demanding job and found it tougher than it looks. He says: “I’m full of confidence and I think I can do most things but the level of focus required to be a good delivery driver is much tougher than it looks,” he confessed.
Spencer shares his secrets for transforming your life, Spencer stresses than consistency is key. Spencer advises, “Proper change happens gradually, it’s consistently doing things better than before. He says, “If you go on one run and you have one good meal and then you go back to your usual antics, change is going to be less prominent. It is very much the passage of time that is important. Good, long-lasting change takes time. Overnight change is something that doesn’t really exist.”
But it’s not just personal fitness and career on Spencer’s mind; he’s also nurturing his relationship with wife Vogue Williams, ensuring they support each other amidst their hectic lives and the challenges of parenting.
He says, “I’m really dialed into my relationship,” and adding, “Vogue is incredibly busy and so am I but we often make time to prioritise each other. I feel very fortunate to have a wife like her. I admire her and love her in equal measure. There is a lot of respect in the marriage and the relationship which helps.”
The reality TV star shared these heartfelt sentiments ahead of a family ski trip. Spencer also reflected on how fatherhood has reshaped his perspective: “Being a father has changed me a lot,” he admitted.
“Maybe I’m still the main character in my life but I have other people around me to be prioritised. I was pretty selfish for a while when I was a bit younger. My wife is sitting next to me and she probably still thinks I am, but it’s slightly less so now.”
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Reality star Spencer Matthews has opened up about the joys of fatherhood, saying, “Just growing up generally and doing positive things regularly, gradually makes you change. I love having kids. It has been the best thing that’s ever happened to me for sure.”
He also fondly spoke about his shoot with Mark Wright for an M&S campaign last year, and revealed he’s absolutely thrilled for his friend Mark and his wife Michelle Keegan who are expecting their first baby. Spencer gushed: “He’ll be a fantastic dad,” adding, “It’s such great news after all these years that they’ve decided to have kids. I think it’s wonderful for him. I’m looking forward to seeing him grow into the awesome father I know he will be. It’ll be a beautiful time in his life.”
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